Creating perfect self ?

 We don’t many have any freedom to create identity or our selfs other than by activity and deeds. Psychologically we go mixed up that we have to be something else than we are. Life change and grow and in many cases destroy our selfs. We are many rather civilized and judge in our selfs many things as not our self but just in our selfs. Then that all is our selfs. We have to sometimes be not so our selfs. We should not lose our psychology. But many do. There are cults that demand some kind of perfect being even in hysteria about something to many insane. And we should not go to such to create such perfect self. Perfect civilized being is not to many possible but we should have freedom and rights with our selfs. Many things are forbidden that we should all accept after made civilized at schools and parenting.