Self has sometimes small self that point to Its small self centered existance about it self . Its called self centered self.  Many brake out to bigger self that is interested in things outside self like music dance literarure romance physical exercize physics etc and also of social life that include real Person to others thst consider and care of others. Such creates bigger self. Then to be for that bigger self is often more salvated and nice than to be for small self. How ever quality social life dont reject totally that you have personal experience also with your self that dont include others just your self. Its valuable to have also our own self.