Defining self

”  If i didnt define myself for myself I would be crunched 

Into other peoples fantasies for me and eaten alive”  Audre Lorde      

People can get in trouble as misunderstood defining them selfs by them self . People often accept people like them selfs and for them selfs known people. Self defined can seem dangerous to the society. Such need to be Interviewed and known also to function in the society. Many are defined by others and eaten alive from them selfs. Maybe such also could not show all who they are cause ready definition of some self is asked. People are not often cabable to such individualisation that gives a ready definition of them selfs. We can just somewhat know things and  somewhat our selfs. I am this and that can be expressed and shown in life if people dont ask a ready definition. Non is interested in being audience to Many people. Their definition could not matter less. Its just some forms of abuse and control.